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Welcome to Rope Help

The contact point for problems concerning rope bondage

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Why is this needed?

Rope bondage, in its variations called (Western) Bondage, Shibari or Kinbaku, is becoming more and more popular, and accordingly the community continues to grow. People from different backgrounds (e.g. dance, yoga, photography, art, BDSM, journalism, etc.) have different entry points to rope bondage and motivations for why they want to tie together. However, there is often a lack of background knowledge and precursory communication before a tying session. Thus, it unfortunately arises again and again, despite all the fun and pleasure, that a rope bondage session for one or both bondage partners becomes a negative experience or leads to an injury. With the growing interest, the number of people who have such an experience also rises, and they may feel alone here. Often beginners do not know how to deal with the situation, as they may feel helpless or overwhelmed.

We, experienced helpers from the Swiss bondage scene, have voluntarily joined forces to change this and have created this page together as a contact point for people seeking support.

Information

What can I do to help myself?

Here are a few different approaches.

1. INFORM YOURSELF IN ADVANCE

Below is a list of documents designed to help bondage partners understand their own desires and expectations as well as risks and to obtain information about your bondage partner. We have also put together a FAQ on bondage.

2. TALK TO EACH OTHER

It is important to talk openly, before and after each tying session, with the person who you tie with about mutual wishes and expectations, as well as your own physical and mental limits and illnesses.

If there has already been a problematic experience: A respectful discussion without accusations often clears up misunderstandings and solves many alleged problems.

3. ASK SOMEONE WITH MORE EXPERIENCE

If a problematic experience was not able to be resolved after discussing it with your bondage partner, it is time to get the opinion of an independent person from the bondage community.

Below and under "Contacts", you will find a list of people who either have their own bondage studio or many years of bondage experience. We are available either personally at the respective bondage meetings, by email or text message (only possible after previous establishment of contact via email) for questions, a short consultation or, if necessary, a mediation between the bondage partners.

4. CONSULT EXPERTS

If, in spite of previous conversations with the partner, psychological problems persist, or if it is a medical emergency due to persisting physical symptoms or due to a violent experience, we recommend to immediately go to the emergency of the nearest hospital. We recommend psychological evaluation in the case of new or intensified psychological problems (e.g. anxiety/ panic attacks, nightmares, night-time awakening with a racing heartbeat, sleep disorders, etc.).

Helpful Links

Documents

Information for you

Behavioural Rules for Models and Riggers

What is important for a rope bondage session? Here you will find important information and questions that you should ask yourself before and discuss together. Verhaltensregeln zum Fesseln

Clover's Tying Guidelines

Clover's Tying Guide is suitable for active and passive bondage partners (go to website)
FAQ

Questions and Answers

Here some answers to frequently asked questions.

DO I HAVE TO LET MYSELF BE TOUCHED WHEN I GET TIED?

During a tying session, only that what is wanted is allowed. Of course, rope bondage is an experience which develops a lot of closeness, but neither bondage partner automatically has the right to touch anywhere on the other person’s body.

WHAT CAN I DO, AS A MODEL, WHEN I DON’T KNOW THE RIGGER?

If you don't know the rigger, don't meet them on your own: Take someone you trust with you. If the rigger refuses, don't do it anyway. You can also inform yourself about a rigger by asking in the community. Find out with whom the rigger has already tied and inquire with this person. No reasonable rigger will have a problem with you this asking. A good possibility to meet for the first time, and even to watch the rigger tie, is at an open bondage jam, which take place in several different regions of Switzerland.

I SUDDENLY DON'T FEEL COMFORTABLE WHILE TYING/ BEING TIED, CAN I TALK ABOUT IT IMMEDIATELY WITH MY BONDAGE PARTNER? I DON'T WANT TO RUIN THE MOOD!

Yes, if there is something wrong with the tying, it is very important that you inform your partner immediately! Nobody can read your thoughts. Only in this way can the bondage partner respond to your concerns by either improving the tying or ending it for the moment, so that no physical or mental injuries occur.

I CAN NO LONGER MOVE MY HAND OR FINGER. / EVEN AFTER HOURS I STILL HAVE NUMB OR TINGLING FINGERS. WHAT SHOULD I DO?

You most likely have a problem with a nerve in your arm that was under too long or too strong a pressure from the rope. This is one of the risks of tying. We recommend that you go to a neurologist. Please tell her openly and directly what happened, as this will enable her to find and treat the problem more quickly. The doctor is bound to patient confidentiality.

I WAS RECENTLY TIED AND NOW I CAN NO LONGER COPE WITH MY FEELINGS. WHAT IS WRONG WITH ME?

A rope bondage session can trigger reactions in a model, which might feel strange and possibly have never been experienced before. For example, people who were of the opinion that bondage cannot really affect them may suddenly slide into subspace (a feeling of floating or an out-of-body type experience). Excitement can also be a reaction that one does not expect. This experience may not be easy to process and a conversation with an experienced person can be very helpful. Under "Contacts" you will find such persons. Another possibility is to contact a psychologist.

WHAT DO I DO IF I DON'T KNOW EXACTLY WHAT I LIKE AND DON'T LIKE?

Affects you and how you react to the simple tying. If the whole experience feels good, you can slowly increase the intensity with the rigger. So you can discover more and more what you like.

HOW DO I COMMUNICATE MY PREFERENCES AND BOUNDARIES CORRECTLY?

Ideally, it is best if you can clarify exactly what works and what doesn't with your bondage partner in advance. This increases security for both sides and helps to enjoy the shared experience. If you are in a session which develops in a direction which you do not like, then say something immediately and directly.

DO I HAVE TO BE TIED NAKED? IS SEX PART OF ROPE BONDAGE?

No, this is absolutely not necessary. Sex does not automatically belong to rope bondage. Many make a clear separation between sex and bondage, even if bondage can be a very exciting thing. You can be tied in clothes, preferably in tight but comfortable sports clothes and with a wire-free bra.

Contact

Who can I contact?

are the email addresses of Rope Helpers (experienced riggers, models and those that run a dojo)

Atrim Namor
Rigger
Language: De/En
Acqua45
Rigger / Model / Jurist
 
Language: De/En
Harukumo
Rigger
Language: De/En
Isith
Rigger / Model / Ärztin
Language:
Ibinuphis
Rigger
Language: De/En
JackTheRigger
Rigger
Language: De
Jade
Rigger / Model
Language:
Matís d‘Arc
Rigger / Model
Language: De/En
Nerea
Model
Language: De/En
Pleasetease
Rigger / Model
Language:
RopuNawa
Rigger
Language: De/En
SadRig
Rigger / Model
Language: De
Shana
Model
Language: De/En
Sirin
Model
Language: De/En/Fr/It
Joy , SZ
Yoko Sumii
Model
Language: De/It
Rope Helper Function Organisation E-mail Language Profiles
Atrim Namor Rigger https://www.seilsport.ch namor@seilsport.ch De/En Joy , Fetlife
Acqua45 Rigger / Model / Jurist   acqua45@outlook.com De/En Fetlife , Joy
Harukumo Rigger Harukumo-Juku harukumo@harukumo.com De/En
Isith Rigger / Model / Ärztin TwF Studio isith@tyingwithfriends.com
Ibinuphis Rigger Secret56 ibinuphis@secret56.ch De/En Joy
JackTheRigger Rigger Secret56 jack@secret56.ch De Joy
Jade Rigger / Model BDSM & Shibari Lichtenstein jade@ig-bdsm.ch
Matís d‘Arc Rigger / Model Shibari im Serrat(u)s - Bondage Jam Zürich matis@luhmendarc.de De/En Joy
Nerea Model Secret56 nerea@secret56.ch De/En
Pleasetease Rigger / Model BDSM & Shibari Lichtenstein pleasetease1985@gmail.com Fetlife , Joy
RopuNawa Rigger TwF Studio ropunawa@tyingwithfriends.com De/En Fetlife , Joy
SadRig Rigger / Model Die Seiler tobni@hotmail.com De Joy
Shana Model Secret56 shana@secret56.ch De/En Joy
Sirin Model sirin8@gmx.ch De/En/Fr/It Joy , SZ
Yoko Sumii Model Harukumo-Juku yoko.sumii@gmail.com De/It Joy